Getting adults and whānau to really hear you can be difficult. For them to take you seriously, it helps if they see you trying to tackle the issue like an adult.

You need to think through what you want to say first, then suss out a time to have a korero when you have their full attention.

It helps to approach things with an open mind, accepting that others also have a point of view and being respectful of their opinions. If you can be open to compromise and avoid being too demanding., that will also help. See if you can hold off the temptation to be mean or sarcastic, which can be pretty common when you’re feeling worked up and angry.

If you are able to reach an agreement, getting it down on paper might be helpful in making sure everyone sticks to it!

If you can’t reach an agreement, agreeing to disagree at least lets them know where you stand. And you can always try again later. At least it’s out in the open now. And even though it can be hard to imagine, remember that your parents were once teenagers too – so they’ve been there and done some of the things you’re dealing with right now.

If you can’t sort things out, concerned about your safety, or feel that you could be putting yourself in danger, there are a number of places you can go to for help.