Losing someone (or something) you love is one of the worst feelings in the world. It might be breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, leaving your hometown/tūrangawaewae or even the death of a loved one. Whatever it is, grief hurts – and that is totally normal. What really sucks is it’s often out of your hands, and you couldn’t do anything about it. That can leave you feeling angry, confused or helpless.

Your loss might make you really sad about something that happened in the past that you didn’t get to clear up, or you might notice some guilt about feeling relieved.

When the thing or person you’ve lost is always on your mind, it gets hard concentrating at school, or even just watching a movie. Knowing that you can’t have that special someone or something again can make you feel hopeless.

Everyone deals with it in different ways, and often underestimate just how long it will take to feel better. But if it’s been weeks and your feelings are getting in the way of doing things you used to enjoy, then it might be the sign of something more serious. You might want to take this test to see if you show any of the warning signs of depression.

For information on dealing with loss or grief, visit the Skylight site.

Here are some more tips for how to keep going after a loss.

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